Wednesday, June 22, 2011

What NOT to say.....

I will admit that I have tasted my own foot in my mouth more than I would like to admit. We are all guilty of having the best intentions, yet saying the wrong thing, and then feeling horrible about what we said, or worse yet, being absolutely clueless about our comment.

And the older I get, the more I realize that it is just smart to keep your trap shut if you don't know what to say. I was talking to my daughter Katy about this. She made a brilliant comment in regards to someone about to give birth. Instead of saying, "when are you going to have that baby? " Or commenting on how tired, huge or miserable the poor woman looks, she said the perfect thing to say is "I hope you feel as beautiful as you look." GENIUS!!

So here is my rant. The two people in question meant me no harm. I actually find their comments hilarious but it was a good lesson to me to be very careful in complimenting someone.

#1 I ran into a friend at Sam's that hadn't seen me in a while. She said she barely recognized me since I have lost weight. Then, I kid you not, she wheeled around and looked at my BUTT. I so wanted to say, "did you just check out my butt?" Like I said, it was funny, but oh so obvious.

#2 I was mentioning to an extended family member that I had donated some very nice but too big clothes to the Joplin tornado effort. She told me she was sure that they could use them because from the looks of the people on TV, there were some very big people in Joplin. Really? You just said that to me??

Ok, that's it. I am sure there will be more. You just have to laugh.

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